You've really jumped to bizarre assumptions and conclusions here.
There is no victim blaming in that scene. Zero. Null.
Saying that someone is really strong for not letting their trauma affect them is valid and positive.
Know why?
Because the alternative is not that someone unable to get past trauma is weak but that they are just normal. That character could have been just normal and continued to let their past affect them as happens almost everywhere everyday. Or do you think therapists are also toxic/victim blamers when they compliment their patients with words such as 'strong' for finally speaking up about painful events?
You say you've been a writer for adult games....Well, i can only hope you learn nuance in convos better going forward.
As for the trans thing: again, dont make wild assumptions and you wont be disappointed for no reason.
